“When we start replacing distractions with things we love, that’s when we start living with intention.” – http://www.simply-filled.com
Raise your hand if you have come across someone who doesn’t agree/understand minimalism or simple living. Yup, I am raising both of my hands.
So often, when you decide to make a change in your life whether it is huge or tiny, you will face those who disagree and those who don’t understand. You will face skepticism and criticism. You will face questions and concerns.
On the other hand, you will also find so much support and amazing encouragement. (What a roller coaster ride, am I right?)
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Honestly, the most stressful part of changing our life was the fear of push back fro people in our life. Everyone has their own opinions and I wasn’t sure how it would be received.
Months into this transition and a more simple life, everyone is aware of how we are choosing to live.
We have had the chance to have lots of conversations with the people closest to us and although some people still don’t understand, I have accepted that and am okay with it.
If you are just beginning on your journey to minimalism and/or simple living, please don’t let the opinions of others bother you too much. Expect there to be some negativity and transition time and know that it’s okay to be different than the people you love.
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The time will come when you will want to talk to your family and friends about your choice to embrace minimalism and I want to share with you a few tips to help you with these conversations!
If there is only one thing you take from this post, let it be this. Be patient with your loved ones. I know this is hard, I am definitely not the best at this, but it will make this so much easier for you and them.
Your family and friends may not really know what minimalism is or looks like and probably won’t understand. Don’t expect them to. Answer their questions, explain it to them if they want you to and give it time. Patience is key.
Share your why.
Don’t just tell them that you are changing your life, share with them why you have decided to do this. I have found that when I opened up and explained my reasons behind this decision, there was a lot of understanding and even interest. I have had a few people I love even do some decluttering of their own and feel so much better after.
Let them in. Open the communication. Share with them your heart. It will mean so much.
Don’t try to push minimalism on anyone.
Minimalism may have worked for you and brought peace to your life but that doesn’t mean it will work or be something positive for everyone. It is important to not push minimalism or simple living on your loved ones. It’s okay if it isn’t for them!
One thing I noticed was that, if someone feels like you are trying to push them to change their life as well, people will shut down. You will turn them off. Explain your decision and journey but don’t try to make anyone else get on board with you.
Try not to get defensive.
Okay, full disclosure here, I tend to get defensive when people question or criticize my life. But you know what? It’s not productive.
I have come to the point in my life where I am truly content and today, it doesn’t bother me if someone doesn’t agree with my choices. It is so much easier to have conversations about being on a minimalist journey when you are okay with others not being on the same page.
Learn to be okay coming up against different opinions and not getting upset or defensive. (Easier said than done, I know!)
Be confident in your journey.
Last but certainly not least, be confident in the journey you are on. Know what minimalism has done for you and hold onto that. When you are having conversations with the people in your life, be confident in the fact that you are doing what’s best for you and your family.
There is a difference between explaining the changes you have made and defending them. When you are confident in your journey, you will be able to simply explain yourself and your choice. This will 100% change these conversations for the better!
Have you talked to your family and friends about minimalism? How did they take it? I would love to learn about your experience!