“I dare you to take off the mask of perfection and show up as you are. Feel the freedom, the relief, the lightness. Because when we are real, that’s when we actually heal. And those around us might just heal, too.” – Ashley Hetherington
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you know who the person is that is looking back at you?
For many years, after becoming a wife and a mom, I didn’t recognize that woman who I saw everyday in the mirror. She had become a stranger to me. And it has taken a lot of inner work, self healing, discovery and time to really learn who I am again. To find who I am, deep down, outside of my roles as a wife, as a mom, as an employee, as a blogger, etc.
And that journey, is still happening. It is something I am working on every single day.
To live authentically means living in your truth no matter what. It means saying and doing what you believe in and embracing the light and the dark parts of yourself. It means saying to the world “this is who I am” and embodying that each and every day.
In our world today, it is so easy to find yourself hiding parts of you or trying to change who you are so that you feel like you fit in, find success, fall in love or make your parents proud. One of the bravest things you could ever do, for yourself, is to embrace the parts of you that may be different or unique and learn to love those parts of you.
There is only one you in this world and that is the most beautiful thing about you! It is time for you to start being your most authentic self and show up as you are!
Here are 5 ways for you to begin living life on your terms and start being who you are meant to be!
Take the time to get to know yourself
The first step in starting to live your most authentic self is to take the time to find out who that really is. What do you like? What don’t you like? What sets your soul on fire and inspires you?
What do you want to bring to the world? Underneath all the layers, who is the real you?
Ask yourself as many questions as you need to and write your answers down in your journal. As you bring to really get to know yourself, you will be starting your journey to authentically living your truth!
Know your worth and your value
My husband once told me, “you are what you tolerate,” from his idol Jocko Willink and those words have stuck with me ever since.
You are enough. But, in order for you to really start living as your most authentic self, you have to believe that. The way we talk to ourselves is very powerful and can shape the way we live our lives.
When you don’t know who you are and what you deserve, it is easy to allow others to take control of your life, even when you don’t realize it. Stand strong in your worth and your value!
Celebrate your individuality
We are all different. We are all unique. We all have things that make us the person that we are. It’s time to celebrate those things that make you an individual!!
Of course we all have things that we don’t like about ourselves or things we try to hide from others but in order to start being authentic in your life, it is time to not only acceptable those but love them. Really, truly love them.
Love the things that make you who you are! That, is where growth and authenticity happens!
Stop living for acceptance from others
For many, many years, I lived my life and made choices to try and gain approval and acceptance from others. Whether they were family members, friends, parents, my husband, I found myself doing things for the sole purpose of making everyone else around me happy.
It wasn’t until I started living for ME that I finally found out who I am and what I wanted my life to look like. You will never be your authentic self if you are constantly craving acceptance from loved ones or our society. Be yourself. Stop living for everyone else! Start living for you!
Own your story
It is time for you to own your story. Every single one of us has a story. We all come from somewhere, have dealt with dark moments in our life and have felt amazing wins. Own them! All of them!
The most courageous thing you will ever, ever do is own your story. The good, the bad and the ugly. Dig deep and embrace your story! You are worth it!