“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” – Aristotle
These past few months have been a struggle. From being quarantined and virtual learning for kids to the loss of jobs and uncertainty for the future, it has been a difficult time for so many people. *This post contains affiliate links*
But, even in the most uncertain and dark times, there is always light. Sometimes, you just have to look a little harder to find it.
COVID-19 has tested all of us. For parents, many of us added the title of “teacher” to our job description and spent more time at home with the kids then we ever have. Schools were closed, extracurricular activities were cancelled and all family gatherings were postponed.
Life felt like it has stood still since March and yet, many moms also report that they have never felt closer to their children. Huggable, an online resource for helping you find the best formula for your baby, conducted a survey to find out how COVID-19 and the changes to our lives have impacted the relationships between moms and their children.
According to the survey, 63% of moms said that they feel their relationships with their children have improved since the quarantine happened. In fact, moms who work full time saw the biggest improvement in these relationships. Check out the full report here!
It is truly amazing to see something positive come out of this scary time in our lives!
If you are anything like me, this time has been full of anxiety and stress mixed with beautiful moments and simple pleasures with those closest to you. It has been a time of reflection and negativity everywhere you look from social media to the news. A whirlwind in every sense of the word!
At the end of the day, no matter how bad it may seem, there is always something to be grateful for. And I have found more gratitude during these few months then I ever have in my life. If you are having a hard time finding the positive during the pandemic, especially as a parent, then read on because I am sharing with you 5 things that have helped me get through this time!
5 Ways To Find The Positive During The Pandemic
1. Start a gratitude journal
Gratitude is the number one thing that has saved my mindset during the pandemic and quarantine. Having the ability to sit down at the end of the day and pick even just two things to be grateful for will completely change the way you look at things.
You may not find it easy to do, especially as a parent who is stuck home with little ones, and that’s okay. At the end of everyday, sit in a quiet spot (even if that’s the closet), close your eyes, pick one or two things to be grateful for and write them down. It could be as simple as the sun that was shining today or not losing your sh*t as much today as you did yesterday. There is no right or wrong. This is just a way to re-frame your mindset to find the positive even when you are surrounded by negativity!
2. Get outside
Depending on where you live, there may still be restrictions on where you can go outside. Here in NJ, for a few weeks, all parks, beaches, trails, etc were closed. But what wasn’t closed was simply sitting in the grass in the front yard or walking around our apartment complex.
With so many terrifying numbers and daily updates about the pandemic, it has been so easy to get wrapped up in nothing but anxiety and fear. Stepping out into nature and focusing on the sounds around you, the color of the sky or the puddles on the ground is an amazing way to disconnect and take in the small pleasures around you. As you walk, bike, run, jump, etc, think of nothing else but in that moment. Works every time!
3. Create new traditions and make new memories
Have pizza every Friday. Sleep in the living room once a week. Make breakfast in bed. Dance. Cook. Bake. Create. Whatever it is you like to do, do that. Create new traditions as a family and make new beautiful memories that will overshadow any fear or uncertainty during this pandemic. When you look back, you will remember those special moments!
4. Turn off any social media or news that do nothing but stress you out
Just recently, after some reflection, I was able to identify that a few of my social media apps were giving me anxiety. I was scrolling for hours at a time, consuming media that I wasn’t even interested in or that made me angry. Yet, I kept doing. (Does this sound familiar?)
If something brings nothing but negativity into your space then it isn’t worth doing it. Turn off notifications, delete the apps, stop watching the news, do whatever you need to do to protect your mindset and your positivity!
5. Find the silver linings
It’s hard to remember but this time at home can also be seen as such a blessing. Here’s the thing: we may never get this extended period of time together again.
On a normal day, especially as parents, we are up early, rushing to school, doing homework, running to activities and so many other obligations. Rarely do we get weeks a time, like we have during the pandemic, where we HAVE TO slow down, spend time at home and be together. Embrace it and try to enjoy it. The more you do that, the more you will be able to find the silver lining!
Please remember, you are not alone. We are all in this together. Take care of you!