Most of us, at some point in our lives, will find ourselves stuck in a rut. Everything seems a bit “blah” and mundane in your life and you feel like you are in the movie “Groundhog’s Day” where you do the same thing, everyday and don’t see a change in sight.
You want to feel excited about your life but you can’t shake the feeling of being bored. Drained. Tired. Disinterested. Unmotivated.
Have you ever felt like this?
Feeling stuck in life can happen for so many reasons. Maybe you aren’t where you thought you would be in your career or in your relationships. Or maybe you have gotten so used to the daily routine of your life that you no longer take risks or stopped following your dreams.
It is easy to find yourself going through the motions in your life. Waking up, going to work, taking care of obligations, going to bed and doing it all again the next day. And the next day. And the next.
Until one day, you wake up and don’t even recognize yourself anymore. Or your life. And have no idea how to change it.
I know how that feels because I have been there. I have felt it. And through tons of inner work, I have managed to find my way out of it.
If you too find yourself stuck in a rut, there are three very important things I want you to remember. Write them down. Meditate on them. Memorize them. Keep them in your heart for those days when you feel stuck!
1. You are never actually stuck.
Repeat after me: you are never actually stuck. You might be thinking to yourself, wait a second. She just spent this blog post talking about being stuck in a rut and now she is saying you aren’t actually stuck??
Yup. That is exactly what I’m saying.
Here’s the thing: no matter how stuck you feel in your life, you always have the power to move. Always. It may not feel like it at the time but you have the ability to change. I read this quote by Jim Rohn once and it really stuck with me: “if you don’t like how things are, change it! you are not a tree.”
What he is saying that you are not planted in one spot or rooted in the same dirt for the rest of your life, like a tree is. If you put one foot in front of the other and take just one step each day toward the life you are dreaming of, eventually you will find yourself there.
I know that when you are in the midst of a rut, the last thing you are thinking of is moving forward. It feels impossible. But, if you realize the amount of power you possess in your life, you will be able to start walking. And changing. And growing.
2. This too shall pass.
This saying has gotten me through a lot of difficult days in my life. Days where I felt like the darkness would last forever. I have sat in the silence and repeated this quote over and over again while meditating or doing deep breathing.
For better or worse, nothing lasts forever. The beautiful days, the hard days, the special moments and the heartbreaking moments. None of it will last forever. Yes, the memories will stay with you for as long as you let them but it will pass.
When my daughter was little and I was a SAHM, I went through the worst anxiety of my life. I lost 15 lbs. Couldn’t sleep. Couldn’t eat. Really couldn’t function. I felt like I would be in that place forever. I felt so stuck in my anxiety and my own head. But guess what? It didn’t last forever. It took a few months and a lot of work but when I look back today, I don’t even remember that woman.
I want you to know that whatever place you are in or how stuck you feel, this too shall pass. Hold on tight and keep moving forward.
3. The work won’t be easy, but it will be so worth it.
There is no quick fix. No secret recipe. Pulling yourself out of a rut is going to take time. And it is going to take work. Lots of work.
There will be periods of discomfort. Moments where you are pushed out of your comfort zone and confronting things head on. But guess what? This is where the growth happens. This is where the work will be the hardest but the most important.
In the end, the things you will learn about yourself and what you want out of life will be worth every second of the work you will do. It has taken me many years, and I am still working on myself, but I have never been more sure of the person I am and who I want to be.
Keep pushing, keep moving, it will be so worth it.
Have you ever felt like you were stuck in a rut? What did you do to work your way through it?