“Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.” – Sharon Jaynes
I am going to get very real with you in this post. Like, more real than I have ever been before and tell you something I haven’t told many people.
I love my daughter with every piece of my heart, but I don’t love every moment of motherhood.
There, I said it.
Now that I got that out, let me explain.
While motherhood has been the most amazing and humbling experience of my life, it has also been the most challenging in many ways. There are some days, more than I care to admit, that I just feel defeated and exhausted.
For the longest time, that fact used to make me feel embarrassed.
When I was a stay at home mom, my only role was to be a mom. I lost a little piece of myself that I am still working to get back.
But if you had asked me then if I loved it, I would have emphatically said yes. I never told others that I felt like I was drowning in motherhood. Trying to keep my head above water most days. I kept my true feelings hidden away.
Why? Because I was afraid someone would think I wasn’t a good mom or that I didn’t love my little one.
But, that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
I have a learned so much about myself and about being a mom in the six years since I brought my daughter into this world.
The number one thing I have learned is this: it’s okay. Seriously, it’s okay. Whatever it is, however your day is going, even if you yelled all day.. it’s okay.
So you hid in the bathroom for 20 minutes after your toddler had an hour long tantrum? It’s okay. Enjoy the silence.
Maybe your little one made a scene in Target because you said ‘no’ to that toy that you know will just sit in their toy box the minute you get home. It’s okay. We have all been there.
Motherhood is not glamorous. It is not a walk in the park. Yes, there are moments that feel like pure bliss and happiness with your little family, savor those moments.
There will be days where you just need a break and time for yourself. It’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up!
Take a few minutes after your husband gets home to paint your nails or read a book and don’t feel bad about it.
Just the other day I texted my husband while he was at work and told him that lately, I have not been enjoying being a parent. My daughter is very strong-willed and it can be trying, to say the least!
Does that mean I don’t love my child? Absolutely not.
It just means that some moments are trying and that I am human. I am not superwoman, even though some days I like to think I am, and I too get burnt out.
Mama, stop being so hard on yourself! It is okay to need a break and to be tired.
Take a deep breath and know that it is okay to not love every single moment of being a mother.